I was getting on well with a mate having fun we went bowling and the cinema and having fun etc But i arranged to take her to the cinema for her birthday and buy her a watch but she 1st cancelled and said next week as she was busy then when next week arrived she said she got family down. then i found out she went with another guy and her f.b. status had changed to in a relationship i was gutted. It has really annoyed me as i asked her and she stated yes she would like to come. Then today she said she not happy as her b.f. not here he on holiday an she misses him? I spoke to her friend about it an she say`s that was bad and she just came with excuses. I feel she was setting up to be with him an when i asked her about it today. we had abit of a argument over it. I feel things will never be the same again? Have i been used or should i still be her friend
Answer: aww... so sorry to hear about that... well it obvious that she is TOTALLY wrong for how she handled u to get this other guy... but as hurtful as it may be, still try to handle the situation like an adult. act as if NOTHING happened not as in still be her friend... but if guys still see each other, show her as little attention as possible. dont ignore her but just show that she no longer means anything to you and make sure it comes off as "she did YOU a favor" Im pretty sure after a while, the guy shes with will start giving her problems... and when that time comes she will feel very stupid and full of regret. u have to rise above this but dont let it get to u its better u kno her true colors NOW because obviously she wasnt worth it / cheer up u seem like a gr8 guy
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
I need some boy advice/help please?
Ok...so hes my ex and we a had a great relationship at the beginning, but then he went way to fast when we hooked up and i dumped him and didnt even give him another chance / there was other reasons..but I was mean and stupid. and I regret it so much because he was a great guy and he really REALLY liked me. so months went by and we didnt talk for the longest time. and then i saw him again and finally talked to him. we messaged on fb and we both apologized and he told me everything, how he felt, how he was sorry and that I broke his heart. and he told me how he hated me for the longest time, because he thought I didnt care for him, which wasnt true. I just had a lot of family problems going on at the time and it was hard, I felt horrible, I couldnt believe I hurt him that bad. but we talked and the truth was that we still both liked eachother so then we sorta got back together but then I broke his heart AGAIN by telling him maybe we should just be friends..but the truth was that my mom wasnt letting me get in any relationship and i stupidly didnt tell him the truth again. so 3 months go by and we start talking again..and by now ive matured a lot since then and I was ready to be honest and true to him. so i told him how I felt/i still liked him and this is what he said "Well hey regardless we can still be friends and I remember that too. Now youre a great girl but I dont really like you. But I mean you interest me. If that makes sense lol so Im down with talking to you and everything and seeing what happens" dont know what that means i didnt get it so i asked what he meant and he said "I dont like you right now. That could change though who knows I totally did haha." but you dont understand he was like IN LOVE with me 3 months ago...so i didnt understand how his feelings suddenly changed. but i guess it was from me hurting him so much. but this time I was the one.. he hurt me like I hurt him and I finally felt what he felt. But I totally deserve it. but now i guess were trying to be "friends" first. but idk what to do cause were going to a show together next week. and its just all confusing / what should I do????
Answer: Hey, I am actually in the exact same situation as you right now. I honestly thought that this was my ex. So you told him that he went way to fast in the relationship, thats the exact same thing she said to me. And then a while later, she texted me and said that she couldnt believe that she hadnt given me a chance to change. I told her how I felt and about she had broken my heart and that I really still loved her. We talked about it for a little while, said that we would start trying to get back to where we were, and then everything fell apart and we didnt talk for a long time. I finally asked her one night if she had any intentions of getting back togethor with me at all, and she said that she wanted to but that she was really confused about the whole relationship and that shed have to think about it and thats where we are right now. I know exactly how he feels and you need to understand that he just doesnt want to be hurt anymore. But its pretty obvious that he hasnt forgotten how he felt about you and that he wants to have those feelings for you again, it may just take a little while. For right now, you need to do what he suggested and talk with him and see what happens. Im sure that it will work out for you in the end, you just have to be patient with him. You really do sound like you have matured since the first time you broke up with him, but please for his sake, if you do get back together, dont break his heart again lol. Youll be fine : Best of luck, Ben p.s. If your wondering about the little name thing, this is my dads account but he never uses it, so I do lol.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
I have problems with jealousy in relationships?
Ive had multiple long term relationships before, and in all my relationships I have jealousy problems. I wont let the girl know because I dont want to control them because thats unfair to them, but it kills me inside. I have confidence in myself, and its not like I dont trust the other girl, so I cant seem to find what is causing this. Im currently in a long distance relationship Dallas to DC. And I trust her 100%, but I get jealous so easily. I dont know how to fix this, or whats causing it. Any ideas? Thank you.
Answer: Jealousy is a common emotion, its not about confidence. Honestly, even millionaires with the best looks get jealous. Nothing you do can dictate whether or not your partner cheats on you, its completely and totally out of your control. Maybe if you realize that there are things that you cannot control in life, your motivation to do something about your jealousy will subside and youll be less inclined to act out your jealousy. Also know that long-term relationships and commitment are hard nowadays. So many people want variety, bigger and better, and experience. Blame the burst of technology and communications. But people are divorcing like its nothing and hooking up with multiple partners. Keep your head up and trust yourself, maybe youll find someone whos old fashioned like you.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
Christians how is the relationship with jesus going?
I think its illegal necromancy is frowned on also very gross oh lol i dont know much about sex with dead bodies sorry im atheist but thanks for the correct word Necrophilia
Answer: Necrophilia... Necromancy is a magical art over the dead... There is a Class of character called Necromancer in the Diablo game series.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
Getting over an Ex sorry longish?
How do you guys get over an ex? Recently my ex previous boyfriend before my fiance contacted me and wanted to be friends. Normally I have no issue being friends with my exes. After occasionally exchanging emails I realized something.... I really, really dislike him. I dont want to say hate because thats too strong of a word. I realized that even though its been a few years, all the pent up anger and hurt feelings I had during our relationship flared up. When I broke up with him I let it all go and moved on with my life. I suppose I didnt deal with my pain. He was very manipulative and selfish and he put his hands on me once. The type of guy who has to be in control of EVERYTHING even your feelings. I just feel a lot of anger right now and I have cut him out. Not I want to hurt him anger just want to explode at him and before he can have the last word cut him out of my life. What do you guys do to get over residual feelings?
Answer: I think that feelings for someone youve been in a relationship with never go away completely. I also think that being in any contact with a guy who was "manipulative and selfish" and put his hands on you by which I assume you mean he was violent is a terrible, terrible idea. Those residual feelings fade the fastest by not being in touch with your ex. I would strongly advise against doing anything to purposefully anger him such as sending him an email where you vent out your feelings as I doubt he would respond well to that type of thing. If you feel like you need to talk to someone about your feelings towards this guy, talk to a close friend, a member of your family, or even a professional. Do NOT talk to your fiance about this. Does he even know youve been e-mailing your ex-boyfriend? Youre playing with fire, and you know it. Walk away before you or anyone else get hurt.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
Is it true that long distance relationships dont work?
Im a bit confused here. Ive heard many times that long distance relationships dont work out yet I know many who are in one. Is it true? If I end up in a long distance relationship myself should I even bother? PS- no rude answers.
Answer: A long distance relationship works if both people work at the relaitonship. Love knows no bounds. I know quite a few people who are currently in a long distance relationship, some have been in one for a year plus, seeing each other during the summer when they are back home. I think a long distance relationship is there when you want it to be. Ill tell you this, if I were in one, I would make it work, granted right now, my boyfriend and I live very close but it depends on how dedicated the people are to the relationship and how much time they make. People dont always make time for people they dont care too much about. When people say they dont have time it means they dont have time to spend with another person they dont want to see. Dont give up faith in having a long distance relationship. They arent the easiest thing in the world but they are by far not the hardest.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
Marriage problem: My wife gets mad cause I dont help with making dinner even though she does not work?
I guess it isnt a question, more like help with opinion thing. Ok, she gets upset when I dont help with dinner or the dishes after. She does not work and I do everyday. I feel that I should not have to help at all and she thinks I should. This causes a whole lot of arguments, we could never agree. She thinks that because I have an office job that I dont come home tired. I stand my ground and dont help with dinner or dishes. This sucks cause other than that we rarely argue about stuff. She is a wonderful wife but this problem could actually hurt our relationship I think. We do not have kids. It would be worse.
Answer: OK you are making the unwarranted ASSUMPTION here that just because she stays home to work and you go OFF to work that you are somehow MORE fatigued and over worked than SHE Is at the end of each day. Have you ever recognized the amount of work it entails to stay HOME to work and take care of a home, household, children if any and so forth. If you have a nice, clean, tidy, well kept home then hopefully you SEE that it is because she WORKS ALL DAY TOO But even setting that aside - how about the fact that youve been away from HER all day with other adults - whereas SHE has been home without the stimulating adult conversation and relationships that working outside the home brings. So consider how frustrating it might be for her to see you come home and instead of wanting to be around her, close to her, talking, helping etc - youd rather go sit on the couch watching TV, reading your mail, the paper or whatever you DO and leave her like she is your mother or maid to go fix dinner PLUS clean it up when youre done Could your lack of awareness of her NEEDS and your insensitivity to HER feelings and lack of recognition and unappreciativeness be any MORE PRONOUNCED HERE? Why not find a middle ground of compromise somehow that meets HER NEEDS which you dont want to address and your own. If she cooks - you clean up. If you both cook together you both clean up - makes everything quicker & brings some UNITY and togetherness to your marriage, relationship and each DAY. Is it so hard to clear the table and load the dishwasher for petes sake? Lastly - if this is a source of argument, contention, frustration and PROBLEM in your relationship then it shouldnt matter if you agree or not - what should matter most is your relationship and HER feelings. SO who is being the most selfish here? You, her, both of you? Perhaps? I think you need to RETHINK your own perspective though either way.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
I know Im crazy, this is the worst day of my life?
Last night I drank tons and got extremely drunk. I have had an open relationship with a guy for a year now, but we have never been official. Last night I went to his house, he was asleep and I broke in Yes I know completely insane I woke up and was freaking out, I have never done anything like that. Im not that kind of person. He finally woke up and of course was like why are you in my house?? I really care about him a lot. He said he doesnt know if he can forgive me I would be ok with getting over him, but I dont think I can get over this situation. Can anyone make me feel better? Please no rude comments I am having the worst day of my life so far and mean comments could really push me over the edge : I dont think Im going to be able to get over this day.....
Answer: First i want u to know that u have to forgive ur self first and other people will forgive u. Just know that what happened yesterday happened and theres nothing u can do about it u cant change what happened . So accept ur mistakes and if this guy likes u he wont get over u over night. U have to know that he is pissed off and give him time to come down n settle things wen he does am sure he will come around. Every one deserves a second chance in life. Hope he forgives
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
Changing to a long distance relationship after being together 4 1/2 years?
Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and Im tired of waiting around for a marriage proposal hes 36 and Im 32. Its really important to me and he just doesnt get it. Were best friends, get along in every way, we both have children from previous relationships that we both adore -- the only issue I have is the fact that Ive been paying all the bills and rent all these years while hes been building up his business. I just feel used and wonder constantly if hell take off once the business makes real money. Why doesnt he want to marry me when he says he loves me and my son? At least if we were married Id have some financial say in all this, and all the money Ive been putting into our bills and the time and money hes put in his business would be an investment in OUR future. Ive gotten to the point where Im just sick of the whole situation, but I dont want to lose him. I have the opportunity to go live with my parents for a while and maybe go back to school, but its 2 hours away from where we live now. Do you think we would be able to still keep a long distance relationship and work on our finances apart, and then maybe down the road after weve got our lives more together hed be amenable to me moving back and getting married? I have absolutely no experience with long distance relationships and trusting him being this far away would be tough, but Im at the end of my rope. Any opinions or advice?
Answer: I think its time maybe.....to let him go. It sounds like hes just interested in the same things or have the same goals you do. This way,by letting him go, that will give you the chance to meet someone who does that will be a better match for you. I know that sounds dumb, but it is what it is. Ive been in long distance relationships and they dont; hence long distance.
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
What do I do now cry?
I had been in a long distance relationship for almost a year, we would have had to wate a few more before we could live in the same state, but now she just dumped me because she said she loves me to much and dosnt want to hurt me and make me wate for her and she just wants friendship. I never did anything to upseat her I always did my best to be my best so she would be happy, I still want to be in a relationship with her, in fact I want to be in one with her forever, what should I do , what can I do ;_; 3 I already told her that I would wate my whole life for her, because I promised her about a year ago that I would, she is the only person who has ever brought hope and joy into my life, we were already friends for a year before we started a relationship and now she says she just says she wants to be friends for now and maby after a while work back up to a relationship, but I never did anything to make her not want to be in one in the first place ;_; And I know for a fact she has not found someone else she just says it is to stressful for me and her, but I never had less stress in my life then when I was in a relationship with her 3 :/
Answer: Try explaining to her that you love her so much and that shes worth the wait, and that you would wait for her forever It might make her feel better about being with you. It just means that she does like you but she doesnt want you to go off her by waiting so long ETC..
Category: Relationships; Date: 2010-08-11
