There is this guy i saw him at work once in a meeting and the next day i was told to meet him for business. I was attracted to him from the first meeting because there was so many ppl from my dept and he was making a lot of eye contact with me. The next business meeting i was told to meet him because my manager doesnt like the way he talked to him. I went to his office and told him we need ur help with this business, i knew from the start he can't help us(and my manager is nonsense) so he told me sorry i dont deal with so and so. So i didnt want to leave and wanted conversation going, i saw he is wearing a ring. I was like explain to me what u do as i am trainee. He said i will send u by email. I was like can u give me now? he said ok i will print for u. So he asked how old r u? i was like 24. He gave me the paper and i kept talking. Anyways i told him i resigned which is true. He gave me his cell no. That was a month ago. I proposed to have dinner two weeks ago and he agreed. We had dinner together and i noticed his wedding ring was not there. Even tho i am very much attracted to him i didnt want to look desperate. So I kept the topic general and there was a couple eating next to us but the shock and horror was that they kept staring at us. He asked me why the hell are they looking at us, and i was like most probably they are free and are weird ppl but he told me may be because of our age gap which most probably was the case because he is 49. I dismissed that and said well i think they shud mind their business. Overall the dinner was ok and he paid for it and the funny thing was he didnt even shake hands with me or anything. I am going to another city were i will work and my sister is not well so i will be with her. I asked him if he was married by text msg(he told me to guess) i knew 100% he is married coz of the ring at his office so i said may be single or married and he said no i am married. So i met him five days ago for coffee. Again under the pretext to give him a book he likes it and i have it with me. I was late for 30 minutes, anyways we were having coffee and asked me to eat and said he have migraine so he doesnt want to eat, i told him i dont want to eat as well. He told me to take some ice cream or sweets, and i was like are u eating ice cream and he said no and i was like well i dont like ice cream really(which is true). So i asked for water and orange and he asked for orange as well. He opened the water for me and pour the water in the glass. We were talking for one hour and he asked me do u like sushi( i hate sushi) but i was like yeah, can u cook? he said yes, so i was like how come u never cooked for me? He grinned and said i have some visitors for a week now so after that i will cook for u. I was like well i am leaving to another city after 3 days but when i am back that is after 3 months then may be and he was like yes sure. So while sitting we discussed about work and we had something in common that most of the staff are total shamble. And i noticed again he wasnt wearing his ring. After we chatted one hour we left to the parking and i gave him the book and some chocolates(i got the chocolates as a gift from my friend), however, i dont eat chocolates so i gave him and it was really expensive chocolates with deco and some books of mine which he borrowed. So he told me thank u so much, when we meet i will give u the books, thanks a lot and that was that. why did he remove the ring both two nights i met him( does that mean he is little interested). And do you think he knows i am attracted to him even though i never told him? Pls help me Plus today I sent him my pic and asked him if I look ill(cause my friends n mother) thinks I do and he answered me with a text saying " forget it u look good" So i called him to say good bye today as im relocating to another city: he tells me sorry katy i didnt give u much attention as i was busy at work and i said it is okay; he then said i want u to join a gym;;;;;; at that point i went along with him and said yeah i am planning to be skinny and he answered yeah i love skinny girls; he went on to say katy i want u to go to the gym everyday and after 3 months i will see you and say wow katy great figure; even tho i was gobsmacked i went a long with his talk and said yeah i will definitely join the gym n go everyday: he said yeah u will wait for me in that city? and i wanted to say wtf but i said yeah i will: So now just wondering to be honest; do u think he is interested in me the least or attracted to me? I dont want rude answers: just different opinions: thanks P.S. I am planning to not contact him frequently but may be email him once a month. Once i get back after 4 months i wanna contact him and get my books back but again i really and truly like him very much
Answer: Yes, he is interested....but on his terms only. If he likes skinny girls, he should not be talking to you....if you are not skinny enough now. Is this man worth contacting again. No. Not really. His conversation is shallow, condescending even~~if you listen to what he has to say and pay a bit less attention about how you feel about yourself when with him....that is what you like. Think about it. If he wants to 'talk' to you and is married...then why do you want to fool with him anyway. He is no prize.
Category: Marriage & Divorce; 2010-09-04 01:07:38
2. How do I politely but effectively tell my family to mind their own business and quit controlling my wedding?
HELP ME!! My Aunt and my Grandmother are trying to take over my wedding! To start things off, my Aunt weaseled her way into dress shopping with my mom and I. Then, she got bored and sick of shopping so she just went ahead and paid for the last dress that I was wearing and the headpiece! Luckily, it was THE dress. The headpiece I am not so sure about. But silly me, I thought by her paying for it, it was a gift (considering it was $300!). About 4 days later, she reposessed my dress because I hadn't paid her back for it yet! [I did finally get my wedding dress back.] Also, she went behind my back and set up a dinner party that includes my aunt, her husband, my grandmother and grandfather, my mom, my in-laws, myself and my fiance, to discuss the finances! The wedding is being covered by my mother, my fiance and myself, and no one else! I'm quite concerned about this dinner, because my grandmother has never met my in laws, but she seems to hate them already and is very ignorant and rude whenever she speaks about them. My aunt has met them before, and she has always been rude to them! Also, my brother told me he overheard them saying that they're going to "turn up the heat" on us, and that we're "are going to get what's coming to [us]." We haven't done anything to them, we just wan't to plan our own wedding! Also, my grandmother wants to make my wedding cake, but she's 75 years old and can't make them like she used to, and also she refuses to make a layered cake for me, she wants to have the layers on seperate pedistals, which I hate! When I said I would just buy a cake she freaked out and started screaming at me about it! On top of it all, I get at least 10 or more phone calls PER DAY from these women screaming at me about Invitations, the Cake, Showers, Gift Registries, Engagement Photos, Wedding Photos, etc. Every single detail they are trying to control! My Aunt wanted to do my Engagement photos and my Wedding photos, which is fine, but my soon to be sister in law and her husband also wanted to do a set of Engagement photos, seeing as how they actually know me and my fiance and our taste as we hang out a lot, and my aunt doesn't! I barely know her and I try to spend as little time as possible with her due to her overwhelmingly strong personality. My aunt completely freaked out about the second set of engagement photos and yelled at me about it! She said she wouldn't do the engagement photos if they were going to take any pictures of us, and that if she saw them bring out a camera at my wedding she would put hers away! I don't understand why nobody but her is allowed to take pictures of my wedding, and I don't know how to talk to her without her shouting me down. The same goes for my grandmother. So, PLEASE! How do I politely, or even just effectively tell my overbearing family that this is MY wedding, that I am going to have things MY way, and that they need to mind their own business? I can't deal with them anymore. Any suggestions would be helpful at this point! [Just to clear up the Engagement Photo thing - I wanted to have 2 sets of Engagement photos, so I would have a variety to choose from, dressed up and traditional, and dressed down, young, and fun, in the woods, riding 4 wheelers, going fishing, skeet shooting, by a waterfall.. all sorts of out doorsy stuff that we LOVE... I don't see how that is a problem.. do any of you??] Thanks in advance - Frusterated Bride to Be! My aunt is a professional photographer, as are my sister-in-law to be and her husband. Thanks all, I appreciate your input! Also, we are working on a very tight budget, which is why they offered to do it for free. & I tried explaining to my grandmother that I didnt want her to be too exhausted to enjoy the wedding and she went off her nut anyways. So I'm not exactly sure how to approach that one without her saying she's dying and the last thing she wanted to do was to make me my wedding cake! (She's like that.) But thank you very much for the input! <3
Answer: I think that you need to set a completely different tone for your wedding. The photographer should be a hired professional, only. No relatives or friends whatsoever. The wedding cake should be purchased from a wedding cake bakery only. No family involvement whatsoever. Do not let anyone buy you anything for the actual wedding itself; just wedding gifts. Have a meeting with the family and tell them that this is your one and only special day in your life to have things your way. Tell them you appreciate them trying to help but that you only want the help of professionals so that they can enjoy your day without having to work the party. Be firm. Draw boundaries and stick to them. Tell them you love them very much but will not tolerate fighting among family members. talking behind relatives' backs, and, that, in fact this behavior is selfish and inconsiderate of the feelings of the bride and groom. Draw up your own list of the things that have to be done with schedules and contacts that you keep to yourself. Be private about the details of what you are doing.
Category: Weddings; 2010-09-03 23:20:09
3. Husbands is cheating wants a divorce, i'm pregnant and don't want it to happen?
Sorry it's so long! Ok so me and my husband have been married for 8 years it has always been a happy marriage at least I thought. we have 4 children of the ages 8,6,3,and 1 and i'm 5 moths pregnant.I just recently found out again that my husband has been having an affair.I've tried to ignore it but killing me i'm trying to stick out for the sake of our children but he doesn't care he still continued to see this women and even took her to Paris while he was supposedly on a business trip. He's moved out and bought a house where him and his girlfriend now live. Then this week I got divorce papers and he wants me out of the house and for the kids to live with him and his girlfriend. The kids are upset i'm upset and under alot of stress I don't want this to happen I love him very much! But it seems like he doesn't even give a crap about me, his children, or his unborn child. I don't know what to do. My friend tells me that since i live in California I can get half everything but I don't think it's true.Please help I don't know what to do or how to tell the children or anything.
Answer: 1. Do not move out of your home 2. Get a good lawyer asap, not a crappy legal aid one, get a good one and make him pay for it 3. Yes, you are entitled to half of everything that was accumulated during your marriage including half the matrimonial home.... you can also say he abandoned the home (and the proof is he bought another one) then you might get to keep it all to yourself for you and the kids. 4. He obviously doesnt give a crap about anyone but himself, he just destroyed his family over a piece of a$$. 5. Be strong, what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger! And trust me, this is true..... it sucks now but one day, very soon, you will be a very strong woman and not even give this creep, yes he is a creep so stop loving a creep, the time of day. 6. You are now part of the "left womens club" so you need to find other women who have been left by their husbands and are doing great (some probably a lot better), they can help you through the tough times, because there will be times when you wish you werent apart. This husband of yours is low... as low as they go.... he cannot have the kids (hes lying and bullying you, in fact the courts would more than likely award them to their mother rather than the adultery man who was very blatant about leaving his family for a piece of a$$) You have a ton of rights and the courts will be in your favor.... if your telling the truth that is, only you know... but if its true, he left for another woman, bought a house blah blah blah...... hes going to get a rude awakening in court... take him for custody..... and ask for the house..... your going to have to be a bit dirty to protect yourself.... I sense hes going to start trying to destroy you so he cna play house with his little woman. Stay in your house, fight for custody of your kids and take care of yourself.... your pregnant, the last thing you need to worry about is that dufus and what hes doing........ anyway, good luck and so sorry..... cant imagine what your going through... i would be angry.......
Category: Marriage & Divorce; 2010-09-03 23:17:55
4. Can I Call Best Buy About My Work Application Tomorrow Or Is It Better To Call On A Business Day?
Tomorrow is Saturday, and this weekend is the weekend before labor day so, should i wait until Tuesday to call them or does it not even matter? thanks
Answer: yeah it's better off if you call them buisness day. Thou monday managers are always busy. Try calling on tuesday is always best. Good Luck !
Category: Technology; 2010-09-03 22:52:57
5. Ramadan: How do you explain this?
Ok so I have a friend who used to be one of you who would disrespect me and stuff and use Islam to back it up, and now she's not Muslim anymore, and helped me give up on my feelings by sending me this email. But of course I like to hear both sides of a story so what do you have to say about this? Dont think Im trolling, I just want to hear your side of it. Firstly, how did Islam come about? In early Arabia, they were Pagan and the Ka'ba in Mecca was once a temple to 360 idols (pagan deities). A god known as Hubal, which was the moon god, was the most senior of all the idols. Even Muhammed was a Pagan before Islam. I think it comes to no supprise that the cresant moon is the symbol of Islam when you notice that Hubal was a moon god. All Islamic rituals are govened by the moon and lunar calander. This is very pagan! 'Allah' was a new name ascribed to this moon god when Muhammed smashed all the idols of the Ka'ba. Allah being Arabic for god. Allah has no gender.. it was kinda like a neutral term for this one god. Muhammed was NOT illiterate. Muslims like to say he was because it adds validity to their religion, but really, how could an illiterate, uneducated man become such a good businessman (he was a merchant). He would HAVE to beable to read and write for his business affairs. Muslims claim that the Qur'an is authentic (ie. definatly the word of god) because of the 'scientific miricles'. For example, embryology. the qur'an details the formation and development of the foetus. They say the Qur'an details this (often inaccurately... (because the 2nd stage of featul development is 'dust'.. which is absurd), they say that this is proof the qur'an is the word of god. What they don't realise is that the Greeks and Egyptians already beat them to it! The Greeks already knew about feotul development. Not because some divine being told them, but because they would have disected bodies (early doctors I guess you could say). Muslims proclaim their book is divine because the qur'an says god made man from a drop of sperm.. it doesn't take a genious to realise that when a man has sex, fluid comes out of his penis and this leads to the women becoming pregnant... that's not divine at all... even early cavemen would have figured that out. Also it's worth noting that the qur'an was written AFTER muhammed died... muhammed was not the author of the qur'an, his first followers were. In early arabia, the qur'an was purly something told by word of mouth and it took them a while to realise that they needed to write things down.. in that time, the qur'an could easily have been currupted by man, so it's no different to the Bible. Look at how many things is 'harem' in Islam. Don't do this. Don;t do that. You will go to hell. I thought about my mum recently and I thought how much of a good person she is. My mum never judges, she always listens to all sides and gives good advise... but according to Islam, she's going to hell because shedoesn't submit to this narcissitic praise-hungry ***** in the sky... that's horrible. So muslims are more than happy to suggest that a good, selfless person is going to hell because they don't believe.. I don't want to have anything to do with a god who can't see the good in people! This god is supposed to be so more powerful than humans, but in Islam, god seems a hell of a lot weaker than humans because he's so insecure. Philosophically, we are more powerful than this 'allah' will ever be. I asked a question about prayer and the muslims say that we should be thankful for our existance and that god deserves prayer... well my argument is why? I never asked to be put on this earth. Why should god create me, against my will, and then force me to worship him for fear of hellfire? Totally illogical. The fact is, Islam puts humans qualities onto something that is not human..(anthropomorphism, it's called). God isn't human?.. so why call him 'all good'or 'all knowing' or 'all murciful'? These are human qualities.. Islam DOES encourage violence. progressive muslims like to try and deny it, but the truth stands clear. They can say 'Islam doesn't allow violence' but the truth is, why else would terrorist kill in the name of Islam? There is clearly something about that religion that makes people do these horribe things. It's psychological. Progressive muslims are horrified that their book allows violence, so they deny that it even exists in their religion. It's denial, that is perfectly explained by human psychology.. If something offends us, we can either retaliate against it.. or we can deny that we are any part of it. Some people argue that religion is needed for morale. Well studies show that this is not true and that to better develop our sense of morale, we need to get rid of religion. Humans are naturally moral creatures because we want to 'fit in' to society and not look bad amoung peers. We're social animals, so again, this is simple psychology. It's also found that morale is made less by anonymity.. for example, notice how much more friendly people are in a small comunity compared to a city? It's because psychologically, we are expected to interect with people in a small community more than once, therefore our innate sense of morality is increased. A study carried out by social scientist Gregory Paul found that religion does NOT give a person a better sense of morale... it may even lower the sense of morale. He found that societies which were more religious had higher levels of murder suicide, rape and sexual promiscuity... I found that study very interesting. There are somethings in Islam that I think are nice. the hijab for example. I think covering your head is beautiful and femme... but forcing someone to wear it like they do in some muslim countries is bang out of order. there's a fine line between modesty and blaming women for the sexual urges of men, which is what Islam does! Sentencing a women to lashings because she didn't cover... how cruel and sexist!
Answer: Only shia believe that rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam was not illiterate. Sorry i couldnt really be bothered to read the whole thing, but someone who is a true believer and fears Allah sunbhan wa ta'ala would never dream of leaving Islam. I have been a muslim all my life and the nonsense you just mentioned showed how uneducated someone can be. To know islam you must learn about it, not rely on people telling you things because then it becomes a game of chinese whispers. Indeed it does." I think you will find this person has done A LOT of research on Islam and has come to realise what this religion really is. Sorry did I say religion?... oh I meant political doctrine. You honestly believe that a successful businessman was illiterate? Now who appears to be the uneducated one!? Besides, the Qur'an that you read today wasn't writen down until after Muhammed's death. Muslims seem to forget about that one...
Category: Ramadan; 2010-09-03 22:34:42
6. Why do Cons keep saying that small businesses don't want to provide health care for their employees?
To be competitive to get the best employees, I have to provide my employees with the best benefits. I WANT to be able to provide them with health insurance, but with one older employee and one that had cancer a few years back, I couldn't get insurance for them - at any cost. Consequently, I lost my best employee to my competitor! Now with the new health care plan, I will be able to buy health insurance for my employees. Are Cons really FOR small business, or is that just a LIE - the status quo meant that only big businesses (the elite) could get the best employees - so the rich keep getting richer and the middle class disappears? coldfuse - Because my son is finally able to see a doctor now - for the first time in 4 years. He is BUYING a policy from the new health care plan. DON - I think that if a business wants to be able to provide health insurance they shouldn't be PREVENTED from doing so. smsmith - For years we wanted to CHOOSE to BUY health insurance but didn't have that choice. julvrug - Obviously you've never owned a small business. We did have health insurance for our employees, but once we got a "non-renewal" notice, we were toast. We contacted every health insurance company licensed to do business in our state, but were denied by every single one. And yes - we lost our best employee because she needed health insurance because of a pre-existing condition (she had cancer a few years before) and couldn't get anything on her own. You also have bought into the lies. Doctors are not required to take patients - with the exception of hospitals. They are required to take emergency patients, but are only required to stabilize them. My son could not walk into a hospital and ask for an MRI unless he had collapsed. Don't buy into the lies. I will pray for you that you never have to experience what our family has gone through. One more thing - the high risk pool is starting NOW, and the premiums are about $350 a month.
Answer: Now if we had single payer health care, than businesses would not have to worry about health care costs and it would be like a giant tax cut for them. Probably explains why Canada is gaining all the auto factory jobs since it's cheaper to produce there.
Category: Politics; 2010-09-03 21:17:26